You've hand delivered beautifully silk wrapped, calligraphy soaked linen stationery. You've hand picked the perfect blush ranunculus and scouted the finest venue where natural light pours into every inch of space. You've tasted impeccable gold flecked french macarons and mastered the art of the two cheek kiss... but then you let your guests play toilet paper bride while eating stale tuna sandwhiches and drink boxed wine. [ensue gasps here] Don't let your bridal shower fall short of perfection. It sets the tone for how your wedding day will look and feel. You didn't chose imported italian glass chargers for a meal thats sub par right? So why not continue the experience throughout the planning process. Your guests will thank you!
You don't have to fork out thousands of dollars to treat your shower guests in a delightful way, it really is in the small details where I hear guests squeal with excitement. When I hear brides say they have taken over the planning of their shower little butterflies fill my soul. I know Aunt Sarah has the very best intentions with her lingerie games, boxed donuts and the ever dreaded gift opening... which let's face it, everyone hates. You love that your guests care enough to buy your registry items and you'll be sure to send the loveliest thank you notes for it but you would much rather spend quality time with your loved ones. So let's talk about creating an elegant guest experience shall we?
ELEGANCE IS NOT A LOOK, IT IS A FEELING. IT IS AN EMOTION EVOKED IN THE EYES OF THE BEHOLDER.
Guest experience is everywhere. It's the deciding factor in waiting 5 minutes for a coffee at McDonald's or 15 at Starbucks. It's the reason you buy your jeans at Target and not Walmart and it's why you choose Planner A instead of Planner B when looking for wedding vendors. It's the experience, the feeling you get, the lasting impression once its all said and done. The number one thing I hear couples say after their weddings is how they felt everything came together perfectly, that their trusted vendors put their heart and soul into their jobs and made them feel like they were the only people they are working for. This is how you should treat your bridal shower as well. Let your guests feel the same excitement that you feel for what's to come. Go that extra mile with your food choices, give your guests a warm welcome and a heartfelt goodbye, chat with each person who took time out of their busy lives to come celebrate you. Let them know you are so happy to be sharing this special moment with them.
One of my favourite bridal shower memories that I attended was when each guest wrote a note for the bride, Each note was put inside of a balloon and the bride released them once she had read each one aloud. I think I cried more than she did. It was such a beautiful moment. It was heartfelt and full of love. That was an experience that I really treasured as her guest that I still remember many years later.
Some lovely ideas you could incorporate into your bridal shower guest experience include:
Pretty place cards for your tables. Everyone loves to see their name in writing and it's a very small but significant gesture that your guests will love.
Give the hostess a bouquet of flowers. She has put a lot of time and effort into making this day memorable for you, saying thank you with an arrangement will make her smile.
If your budget allows for it, you could give a small token of appreciation like an engraved bracelet with their first initial.
A box of your homemade cookies with a beautiful recipe card attached.
An elegant scripted quote on a piece of silk ribbon.